Yes, that's a NEGATIVE and growing. I've got to let this one work itself out. I cannot afford to put in the money to cover this. I have to keep cash (and what's in my own personal account) away from Tom and forego the urge to make a deposit to make this right.
Harsh? Yes, because it's only going to get worse before May 1st when his pension check hits. Then whatever's left out of that will be for the essentials, mortgage, lights etc.
I cannot GIVE to the fund of destruction.
I have to let this one bite him.
His daughter's birthday check is going to come in for payment too. NSF. Then she's going to say "Dad's at it again"......and he wanted to mend the relationship with his daughters. This is not the way to do it.
Thank you ALL for your wonderful comments.....and if it's not too much to ask, I'm going to show them to Tom. Let him see that a vast amount of people across the continent care about US. Y'all are mahhhhhhveeeeelus dahlin's. Hugs and kisses to all!!!!!!!
We've talked. He packed the truck and was planning to head to his brother's house.....TX....to think, sort things out. (Geee thanks for leaving me home to handle the mess.) Then he said NO, he was not going to run away from this problem.....that he wanted to get medication for depression.
I reminded him he has to tell the TRUTH to the doctor......the painful truth....."I can't handle my daily stress.....and I turn to drugs..."....
First steps of recovery. When I told him that I "hate the Rolling Stones" he said "no you don't"...he was a bit confused at that.
I said "well, it's what you said to me the other night while under the influence of alcohol"....I wanted him to know this....that this is what happens to him. That these comments hurt me because, well, he said them, and then doesn't remember them much less apologize for them. He was quite surprised by it.....is why I've suggested many times tape recording these episodes.
Spring is here......he's uncoverd the pool, filled the water level and popped in some chemicals. He'll have a project just keeping the pool clean etc. Miss T will soon be out of school. She'll keep him occupied during the day.
I've also suggested crossword puzzles....he has a lot of knowledge in that hard head of his, he can try the puzzles. I'm working on a schedule. Going to post it in the house...give him "chores" or weekly expectations to keep him busy. He does a wonderful job with Tara, getting her to school and home and homework and playing chauffer to dance classes. But I know he needs more direction. It's a shame that I feel like I have 2 children instead of one.
Today is the first day of the rest of his life.........