Sunday, April 27, 2008

The winner is.........

........(drum roll please).......

ROBIN!!!!

Great answers came through and I know most of you wanted to be positive even though the subject was Tom.

Robin wrote:

My guess is he got lost, arrested and drunk.
 
Helen - 2nd place with
I am thinking he got a little tipsy while he was gone.
 
3rd place is Lynn - jail !
 
Honorable mention:
Phil the Thrill
Tom got drunk, drove drunk, was late meeting you or your daughter and offered lame excuses.  Am I close?  If not then he was an outstanding citizen that reminded you of a boy scout walking an old lady across the street, he took you out to dinner, was very romantic, and made sweet love to you all night.  My guess is still the former but the latter does sound much more exciting and fun doesn't it?  LOL

wow....I would have LOVED Phil's rendition of the "romantic".  Phil you come the closest with some details.......

Ready for the story?

Once upon a time...........

Wrong story line.

Ahem.  Tom is packed and takes off on a 4.5 hour journey up to Nags Head (Outer Banks).  Secures a motel room about 8:30pm; unloads the car.  Calls to say "Honey I'm here" and heads out for a "burger or something".

Calls me around 10:45pm saying he's in the room, but that he lost his ATM card.  "Where were you?"  I say and "what have you been drinking?"  (His reply was "a beer"....later on " a couple beer")

He said "I took some $$$ out" and I said "go back to that atm and see if it's laying around".  Me thinking that on an island such as this, the atm cannot be too far away.  Since it was dark, he wouldn't be able to give a good look in the car in case it dropped between the seat and the console.

Fast forward to 5:30am:

My cell phone wakes me and it's Tom. 

They're arresting me.  He said "I tried to make a U-turn and got the front wheels stuck in the mud."

ME:  They don't arrest you for bad U-turns

Tom:  No....you know.  ME:  No?

Tom:  DUI

ARRRRRGH.

The tow truck was there, then came a lady to try to help pull him out; then a deputy and then a state trooper.  It was the trooper who administered the breathalyser...... point 12.

He asked "where are you taking me?" and an officer said "Albemarle...........something".

After getting Miss T off to school, I came home and said to roomie....wanna hear something funny? and proceeded to tell her the story followed by

ROAD TRIP!

We jumped in the family truckster; stopped for snacks and took off.  5 hrs later we were in Nags Head at the motel getting Tom's luggage and drugs and toiletries.

We spent the next 2 hours trying to find out where the jails were.  Manteo:  Nope not there.

I asked "Is there an Albemarle something???" and she said yes and gave me the number.  We called; verified that Tom had "checked in" and asked for directions.

ELIZABETH CITY????!!!!!

For crying out loud that was 58 miles from the hotel.

We had to go from the base of this island, to the top and over back into the mainland.

Finally we got the state trooper to call me with info.  Then the deputy called me with info.  Gave me the name and number of the tow truck.

Called the tow truck guy......he gave me directions to my car.  But first we needed to eat and get money.  $260 to get the car outta hock.

Picked up the car at 7:30pm.  Were told where it was towed from.

Seems Tom took a joy ride - sightseeing - in the dark.

Tried to U-turn because, as he said "this is stupid - I need to turn around and go back to my room".  Got front wheels stuck.  Someone stopped; someone dialed 9-1-1. And the rest is cop related.

After retrieving my car it was late and I was tired as you can imagine.  It was raining and I needed to rest and think so Roomie and I took a room at the Holiday Inn........in front of the jail of all places.

Oh it was safe...in a business district.

The next morning she brought me breakfast in bed....my coffee and some pastries.  I went through the phone book; called the clerk of court to find out Tom's next court date - May 2nd.

Sent her on home with the car with strict instructions to call if necessary while I went to the jail.  Got some numbers of bail bondsmen and began calling.

...............................................

..........to be continued.

 

21 comments:

nolefan38 said...

I'm sorry to hear it turned out like this........................ Sherry

magran42 said...

Maybe he should stay there until May 2? ? ? ? ? ?

madcobug said...

I hated to give that answer. I know the others were like me, hoping that wasn't the case. You really had a bad time of it tring to find him, and there's still more to come? Good grief what next? Helen

garnett109 said...

no coffee while on summer vacation oh well

sharonna1955 said...

M WITH COMMENT NUMBER TWO... ANYTHING ELSE IS ENABLING HIM TO CONTINUE THIS PATTERN .SHARON WILL PICK UP THE PIECES .SO NO WORRY LET HIM STAY RIGHT THERE TIL MMAY 2 ITS ONLY 5 DAYS .MAYBE THEN MAYBE HE WILL THINK TWICE SO THERE WILL BE NO NEXT TIME IT IS GONNA BE A VERY COSTLY PROBLEM TO DEAL WITH SAVE THE BOND MONEY ....GOD BLESS YOU ENABLING ONLY ALLOWS CONTINUED BEHAVIOR.LOVE HIM ENOUGH TO NOT HELP HIM... SUE

lifes2odd said...

I'm sorry Sharon. I don't know what to say anymore...
Martha

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))))))))))))I dont think he knows how lucky He is to have ypu.

ndnhunny30 said...

I swear our hubbies were brothers in another life!!!! What a familar situation lol. I am glad your keeping your humor about it. What else can you do? Bop him upside the head when you get him out k?? lol
Hugs, Robyn

deshelestraci said...

I would have left him there after I retrieved the car.  You need to quit enabling him.  Spoken in love.  
Traci

robinngabster said...

Aw sweetie, I wish I had been wrong.  :(

newsworthy822 said...

wow I can't believe you drove all the way to get him after he pulled something like that.  Maybe you should've let him rot in jail. Easier said than done, but something needs to change, huh? my guess is tom knows he can count on you to bail him out.  I feel for you. My mom went through this with my dad for years.
hugs, Melissa

cacklinrosie101 said...

Ugh, I'm speechless, Sharon.  How much more can you take?  I'm so familiar with the Outer Banks.  You really did some cruising.  When is enough enough?  Dang, girl, I feel for ya.  Big HUGS  Chris

onecrabn3lilfish said...

I would have left his ass in jail.


Amy

bobbysgirl8584 said...

I have been reading all these (out of order unfortunately...I started at your last entry and then went backwards from there). I am so sorry that you are going thru all of this. Tom is a grown man and there is only so much you can do for him. he can waste his life away acting irresponsibly and there is nothing you can do about it. It is too bad that he can not see how this is effecting not only his life but the lives of all around him. I know you will stay strong and do the best you can to get thru this. But I really think if he continues to act this way you have to start letting him figure out how to get out of these messes that he constantly finds himself in and start thinking of what is best for yourself and your daughter.  Good luck and remember to try to stay strong.
Maria

queeniemart said...

does he care that he could have killed a sober and innocent person?
I hate it that you are living this. YOU deserve so much better.
Love you

ukgal36 said...

I'm sorry i was right...
your husband my dear is an imbecile..
Lyn
http://journals.aol.com/ukgal36/Britsblog/

lazarai said...

Sorry to hear this, Sharon. :( You and your daughter do not need or deserve this. I know it's not easy, but nothing will change unless you stop enabling him. Alcoholism is a disease. He won't change until he's ready to admit he has a problem. I feel for you.....

Hugs,
Carol

chat2missie said...

Oh no.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Missie

jckfrstross said...

Oh no!!!!! keeping you in prayer

Deb

buggieboo1 said...


I'm sorry Sharon. I don't know what to say , You sure are a better person then me! I would have left him there!
I don't think he knows how lucky He is to have you.

Sharon

rgossett4195 said...

Oh boy!  I am just now catching up on journals!!  Wow he sure got himself in a mess.  rose