Tuesday, September 19, 2006

Tuesday Toodles

Well, thanks to Mudder Nature's cool front closing in and yesterday's stress I had one of those thumping headaches today and stayed in bed till NOON.

I would like to say a VERY BIG THANK YOU for all your comments, each one!  I love you all!  (and NO I don't offend very easily if any were wondering)

Tom and I had a chance to talk over the events of Sunday night.  I am one for details....he gave me an outlined version.  When I told him the account was gonna show a negative $300 he was surprised.  HOW?  You can get the "available" balance with the ATM card.  But ya know, booze always fogs the brain.....tells it things that just aren't so.

I never did get to the bank or get a call back from the lady mgr about how in the world they decided to give away money that wasn't there.

A friend has posed some good questions to me about Mr Man's behavior.  He and I discussed his desire to please his father...I reminded him that this was just not possible.  The "Don", as in my FIL, (think mafia here) has to control "the family" and therefore is always pointing out what is wrong in YOUR life.  I say it's time to put "Don" in his place and quit trying to please him.  I'm not saying be a bum or anything, but just be who you are.  It was a tough lesson for me...but one I had to embrace regarding my parents.

Tom is in constant pain....because of his accident in 85 (he was hit by a car as he was walking across a street while on duty NYPD) he has had multiple knee surgeries...broke both legs and busted the right knee.  2 years ago he had a total knee replacement...that didn't go well.  He's still in pain.  So he drinks to dull the pain, smokes to forget it.  I can understand that theory.  I remember back when I was having my own troubles (late 80's early 90's) that all I wanted to do was sleep or zone out.  That way I didn't have to cope.

Is Mr Man always honest with me?  or himself?   I think he is with me, because he has learned that if he lies, I will always find out the truth.  (Just ask my brothers LOL.)  With himself....no....he will say outloud "I don't want....or I won't...."  but he let's that voice within talk him into things.  I like this comment "constitutionally incapable of being honest with themselves"........how true in a lot of cases.

Never a dull moment........

I did get Miss T to dance......she will finally begin working on her solo for this year...that's gonna be cool.  The Lyrical group routine is coming along great.  She and I had Taco Bell (ugh) for dinner, I'll suffer later I'm sure!

My bestestfriendinthewholewideworld Cindilouwho has finally seen the light and has left the boyfriend....she will be moving back home (again) and is seeking employment nearby.  She misses her granddaughter and her family and friends.  All for a stupid man.  I told you so!  It will be nice to have her home again.  She's so funny and I miss her alot.  People ask me if we're sisters.

Are the mosquito's bad in your neck of the woods?  They are horrible here.  As soon as I step outside, WHAM, half a dozen are on me like I'm a buffet!  There's a question for God when I get there.....what's up with the mosquito????????

And.......we have a huge black lizard on our deck.  Hugh I tell ya...with blue stripes....dunno what he is, haven't looked him up yet.  I'll have to make sure my .380 is loaded,,,,ok, ok, I'll use the BB gun.  Now if one of these guys gets in my pool...................

Speaking of my pool, Tom laughs at me when I say I want a solar blanket for it or a heater......hey, it was upper 80's today outside, it would have been nice to take a dip but Noooooo, the pool is at 72 friggin degrees.  Maybe next year.



am4039 said...

omg if there was a lizard on my back porch, I would never leave the house till it went. I'm such a baby. Sorry about the headackes. Hopefully the bank account well be ok maybe he realized now that it can get negative. LOL.

Hugs to you Happy Miss T got to go to dance class.

allisonm96 said...

Doesnt your bank give you and itemized list of what purchases were made with the card? Check into that. Gotta love this cooler weather comming on!!

imgr8phil said...

Lot's goin' on in your life I see.  Keep your head high and keep smiling.  Have a happy hump day tomorrow.


ajoleblon said...

I'm glad you and Tom can talk about the problems and you have a great attitude which will always help you get through it all!

rbrown6172 said...

i understand the headache...you had enough going on yesterday to give ya a big one!  i am thankful that you and mr man were able to talk things over.  i'm still praying for you....now bout that lizard....all ya need to shoot him with is your camera!!  hehehe
ps...i got your postcard!  thanks!  will be posting it soon.  :)

mastersblynn said...

Glad yall made up! Barbara

mpnaz58 said...

Sharon, I am so glad you are in good spirits (and no, not alcoholic kind!).  You've got Mr Man all figured out, and that must scare the heck out of him...try as he might, he may fool himself, but never, you.  Not a position I'd like to be in!!  You are a remarkable woman, my friend!!  Take care...
xoxo ~Myra

deshelestraci said...

I'm glad y'all got to talk.  I know it's gotta be hard to be living with someone like Mr Man.  But I'm glad he has you to help him along.  
The mosquitoes were worse last week.  But it's a good question for The Big Man when we get there!

deshelestraci said...

I have a better question for God!  Why are there alcoholics and addicts?!  What a bunch of heartache!

fasttrack58 said...

I'm glad you and hubby talked... :)
We have a frog on our front porch with spots... lol hubby came home from work and then was back outside with a flashlight...
It's still in the low 90's here.... :P
Have a great Wednesday!
Linda :)

queenb8261 said...

You GOTTA get a solar blanket for your pool. You can't believe the difference one makes. Our pool is 16x32 (rectangle with a dog leg corner) and we get one a little oversized and cut it too fit. We have ours on a reel so we can just roll it off.  It was up in the 90s (too hot) with the blanket on at the height of summer. It's at 86 right now, even though the nights are getting cooler and cooler.  
Glad you and the hubby had a good talk.  Bless his heart. I know how chronic pain is.  Alcohol just isn't the trick. I hope he can find some resolution with his dad. I was in my 30s before I ever learned.
Hugs, Barb

eml625 said...

Glad you talked things over with hubby. Hope that helps.
Its still pretty warm down there huh? Its cooled down in NY, fall will offically arrive Saturday! Glad your friend will be back, No man is worth loosing friends over.

chat2missie said...

The mosquitos are bad here!  Two nights in a row when I went in the yard with the dogs I got attacked!  You should see my legs!  They never attack Kevin.  Just me.  He can be standing next to me and he doesn't get one bite!  I also had a really bad headache yesterday!!

dcmeyer420 said...

You're made of steel, my friend. If it was me in your situation, I would have fallen apart already. Hugs.

mrsm711 said...

No Mosquitos here.  We had our 1st frost last night.  Brrr.  
Got to your journal through XXRoxymamaxx.  I'll be back to read more.

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((((((((((((((TPEZ))))))))))))))))))))I am sorry your still going through a rough patch,your still in my prayers.No creatures here.lol.I am glad you will be seeing alot of your friend,when She comes back home.Have a great week/

canyonsun04 said...

Oh boy, you need me to visit. Lizard way cool :) And I find water temp at 69 and 70 REFRESHING! Well after you go numb of course!  The solo is very neat, I'm SURE YOU will take pictures..RIGHT??????

lifes2odd said...

Oh man! You have been going through a lot since I was last here! I hope things are better. (((HUGS))). Martha

penniepooh said...

I`m glad to hear that your friend is moving on to better things. I hope she can stay busy and forget about her boyfriend.

oquinn2004 said...

Your a strong woman....hang in there.  I will keep you in my prayers.

Have a good weekend....Liz