Sunday, September 17, 2006

A very bad feeling.....confirmation


Well, as I said in my previous entry of today, Tom's in a funk....see the above?  Earlier there was a good positive balance.  The Giants game was at 1pm; they were losing, but came back.  It is currently 9:30pm and Tara has been calling his cell phone many times only he doesn't answer it.  That means he's left it in the vehicle.  She even made the statement "I'll bet he's in jail"....she gets that honestly.  She's been through this enough herself to know the signs.  How sad.

For a couple of days now he's been acting "distant", in a fog --- a sure sign of unrest in his own mind.  Mind you now, he's just been given an umteenth reprive with the courts, this time it won't be let go.  Sept 1st marked a new beginning --- the courts will not allow cases to be "dismissed" without justified reasons, publically and privately (newsprint & phone call to the accused).  And with Tom's track record, well, all I can say is


Especially if he's, what am I saying "if"....especially drinking, out this late, driving and possibly "the other stuff"..........See?  I don't trust him right now, because I've seen this coming for a couple of days yet.  And if it's the other stuff.....I get to go back to my old ways of babysitting a grown man.  I'll snatch all the money outta the joint account (the SS $ will hit Wednesday & his retirement $ on the 30th), put it into my personal account (at a different bank of course) and have to pay bills from there.  Oh joy.

My 9 year old has more responsibility and respect than this soon to be 55 yr old.  It's always the same old story too.  "Well, you know, we just, um, got to talking and...lost track of time".

He forgot that
1) the 1pm game is LONG over;
2) um, it's DARK outside ??? 
Yeah right!  I wasn't born yesterday.



emabecmar said...

oh man, i sure do hope he's not drinking again. the court is'nt gonna be so nice next time. he could be charged as an habitual offender and end up with jail time and a huge fine. i think it's a real good idea to take the money and put it in your personal account. i would do that also. ((((hugs))))

mpnaz58 said...

Oh, Sharon, I am so sorry.  Unfortunately, for him, he is in deep do-do!!  Fortunately, for you, you know just wha to do.  It makes me sad that he doesn't "get it", for the sake of his family, AND himself.  Too bad...take care...
xoxo ~Myra

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((((((((CHERRY))))))))))))))))))))))))I am sorry your going through a hard time.I am praying for you.

rbrown6172 said...

sorry to hear this....i'll be praying for all of you.  {{{{sharon}}}}

hadonfield78 said...

I am very sorry to hear that. My thoughts and Prayers are with you.

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jckfrstross said...

i hope it all works out for you:) try and have a good week


queeniemart said...

Babe, you know that i know exactly what you are talking many nights, RECENTLY, that i do not journal about where Rick is God knows where and has no money and lies to my face. Tears and fears.
I pray Tom is home and safe and not drunk or otherwise.
I love you, always.

nelishianatl said...

I am so sorry.  I wouldn't go through this these days for anything in the world.  My heart goes out for you.  Big hugs.

eml625 said...

Oh shit...gonna read the next entry

garnett109 said...

Again so sorry to hear this!

chat2missie said...

I'm sorry you and your family must go thru that crap.

rayne1123 said...

i am sorry to hear that your daughter understands what is going on and knows it is happening. you are very strong to be able to deal with this. i could not do it. i do hope he really did just lose track of time

canyonsun04 said...

Children are very intuitive. I'm very sorry this is happening.  But it's clear you know what you need to do. Your a very strong woman, Im here whenever you need ;)

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memes121 said...

Hello friend. Tammy

penniepooh said...

I give you credit for your patience, that`s for sure. How is your daughter handling his behavior?
Love ya-

daniella12800 said...

Sorry I have been away so long!  I don't even know what to say.  Just that I hope things get better!  I will pray for Tom, I hope he gets out of his "funk"  and opens his eyes to reality!  That will be tough...I know!!!  It is like once you get yourself in a mind set it is soooo hard to pull yourself out you just keep digging yourself deeper!

On a happy note how is Miss. T and school is she handling her panick attacks any better?