Tuesday night was a downfall for Mr Man. He brought Miss T to me at work so that I could prepare her for pictures they are taking at the dance studio. He went home after that.
I called him at 6pm to tell him we were done and going to stop by Kohl's....I could tell he'd been drinking and said "I think it's time to stop". He said OK......when I got home at 7:30pm he was NOT home and according to my temporary roommate he left about 7 or 7:10pm. She also said she heard our conversation and that he did NOT stop drinking (beer) but had a "couple more" after that.
I phoned him, he said he was at the local grocery store. I don't believe him. I said turn around and come straight home. 10 mins went by and I called again.....according to him he was only 1/2 mile from where he said he was to begin with (hmmmmm taking a LONG time to drive 1/2 mile). I suspect he was with his long time friend Jim at a restaurant he manages and doesn't want to tell me.
Once home (7:50pm - again LONG ride) I met him outside to get the same story. I said to him that he was not being honest because "roommate" told me what time he left. (Thank goodness phones retain the time and date of calls)
One inside he was still adamant that he was only gone for maybe 15 mins and I pointed to roomie and said "wanna ask her what time you left?"......he didn't.
At 11pm he began to vacuum and was going to mop the floor, mumbling and slamming the machine down.....Tara was sleeping and he was banging the vac so loud that I went up behind him and frapped him on the arm w/my brush. Told him to STOP, people were trying to sleep......11pm was no time to begin housework.
This morning he said "I don't know what game you're playing......"
Oh, now I'M playing a game.
He started the Prozac Monday night....I hope it doesn't do to him what it did to my lil bro.....made him paranoid. Tom may have to change meds, he did well on Lexipro before.
For someone who may have had a heart attack WTF is he trying to do? Death mission? Crying for attention (the wrong way of course)???
I've pulled out my books "Too Good To Leave Too Bad To Stay" and
"Love First" to re-read my underlinings and dog earred pages.
One of my underlinings is under the heading of "MISCONCEPTIONS" and the misconception is "A recovering [drug] addict can still drink alcohol.".....the answer is "no chemically dependent person can use alcohol and be in recovery from addiction.....it may set off cravings that will lead him back to [drug] use. This is called switched addiction". (From "LOVE FIRST" by Jeff Jay; Debra Jay)
I would love to make an outline of my underlinings of these books. That would take some time, but may be effective.
I'm rambling again aren't I?????
I just don't think he's taking this seriously right now.
I did call Jim....he wasn't working so I don't know if Tom headed that way and found out J wasn't there and turned around. I explained to J that Tom has been not so good, told him about the incident of 2 weeks ago along with the heart attack info....he said he'd stop by tonight after work.