I'm just going to come out and say it!
My kid is perfect.
OK, now let's get real.
Miss T had a friend over last night "M". I don't care for this kid much. She's one of those ....you know the kind. Spoiled-er and not as mature acting as T is.
I had an issue with this kid some 5 years ago....seems "M" had talked T into a compromising situation and T said she "just didn't know what to do".
So last night they're reeeeeeeeeeal quite, playing with Barbie dolls (something "M" never was interested in doing before). No TV, no music. Just quietly. This M is never a quiet kid.
Yep, I kinda figured that! One of those "let's play house with the dolls" kinda thing.
I called Miss T out on it this afternoon....said "....like that game you and M were playing last night that you probably really shouldn't have been doing in the first place, right?"
Another "talked me into it" answer.
So we've had the talk about "just say NO and walk away".
I know Miss T doesn't like fights or confrontation, but she's gonna have to learn to say NO. That it's OK to say no.
Also overheard last night was "I don't have to, I'm the guest" when it was time to clean up before starting another activity. I walked into the room, T said "she's not helping" and I said "well, then she just doesn't get asked back ever again".
I know how very awkward it can be to be asked to do or say something that you're just not comfortable with. Many times in my youth , hell, adult life too, I wished I'd had the gumption to "just say" something without fear of rejection or being embarassed.
Miss T has begun to "bud" a bit since beginning school. Before long the inevitable relative "Aunt Flo" will be doing her monthly rounds. Hormones will rage. She already has temperment!
"No" is going to HAVE to find a home in her vocabulary when it comes to friends.
One night when I was, oh, 13-14, I was asked if I wanted to go to the drive in movies with a girlfriend. Little did I know I was gonna be "left" in the car with the older brother - I had never met this guy before. He thought he was gonna put the moves on me. No way. I was set up! I think his sister's were off somewhere probably "watching" to see what happened.
They wasted their money is all I can say. And I resented being put in that situation. Plus when I got home, my Mom had called the other brother's house wondering when we'd be home - the one the sister's and I were supposed to be with - he knew nothing about it. Mom was not happy.
Neither was I....I explained to her how I did not have any idea that it was the OLDER brother going with us and not the one she had called (he worked for them). Lucky for me she believed me.
Never again did I go out with this crew. Although one of their cousins ended up being a good friend, and still is to this day. I was his study buddy - so he could pass Physics.
Why did they call History Physics?
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