Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Update on Friend

Grrrrrrr comes to mind.

The hubby of friend is still being a jerk.

I think he's trying to isolate her from everyone - make her feel guilty like it's ALL her fault.

He growled at cindilouwho last night (she brought friend some reading material) and she told him in front of our friend that he needed to "can the attitude" in her bestest growl.

What a class act he is!

I phoned friend today and talked in my most cheery voice "hey - how are you? do you need me to bring you anything? magazines? ice cream? pretend umbrella drinks?"  She sounded good.  She's weepy and that's to be expected.  Said she had to get her "mental and emotional" side on track.

I said "Mental first....the emotional can wait a bit" and she kinda agreed.

According to her, they are going to try and move her to a regular room today - GREAT NEWS!

So I said "that's great!" and that I would try to go by tomorrow once she's settled in....I'll go during the day while jerk is at work - girl talk time.  I don't want to be pushy......this is probably very embarassing for her as well as touchy.  Someone (else) needs to make her see that she doesn't deserve to give her love to this jerk.

I told Tom on the way home.....women (like me) need to keep a fine distance with men...not allowing their heart to be totally given over to nor controled by a man.  I wonder if he got the point?

There is definately a wall between us.  It has been put there to protect my heart.  Sometimes I wonder just how much love there is for him.  We may have just reached a comfort zone that neither one of us want to give up....familiarity.

Sad.

 

9 comments:

deshelestraci said...

Friend will do well to get rid of jerk husband.  Hmmm.  Sounds like someone else I know.
Traci

chat2missie said...

Your friend needs to get rid of her hubby once and for all.  She is the most important thing to herself.  Not him!  When you go and see her, give her an extra hug for me.
Missie

eml625 said...

Husbands suck.

I will keep your friend in my prayers. Your such a good friend to be there for her, with all that you have going on.
Much love
E.

imgr8phil said...

Just remember to live by the words and advice that you are giving.  Take care and have a happy hump day tomorrow.

Phil

rgossett4195 said...

You have come to some realizations yourself...which is good.  For me I would share my experiences with my friend, relate to her, no preaching.  And then let her talk...  good luck!  rose

mastersblynn said...

Every kindness you show your friend is a kindness back to all of us.  Stick with her no matter how the hubby acts.  Us girls gotta stick together...If you can't depend on your friends who do you have?  Prayers and Love from Texas :) Barb

queeniemart said...

you are pure gold.....a treasured and COMPASSIONATE friend. I am so glad you're there for your buddy in the hospital. Love you SO.

sunnybethe said...

What a kind soul you have.  Going during the day to visit it a good idea.  I'm with you when it comes to protecitng your heart.  There's a protion that just needs to remain yours.  HUGs, Bethe

cacklinrosie101 said...

What a darned shame she is stuck with that creep.  I hope and pray that with therapy and meds she is able to put him out of her life and move on.  What a jackass!  You are right that someone neutral needs to talk some sense into her although until she is ready to give him up, no one will be able to make her do it.  HUGS Chris