Tuesday, September 11, 2007


First the fun stuff....

my pool was soooooooo divine tonight.  The temp was perfect, the breeze was light and the air temp was fantastic.  I sat in my float with my head tilted back and just stared up at the stars. 

     Totally beautiful.

I'd only had one drink.  But after the afternoon I'd had I deserved it.  I was home, TnT were at dance.

We counted Tom's Rx pain meds.....in 13 days he had taken 51 pills......the rx was written for 3 per day as needed.  He's only upright about 12 hours a day so that means he's over medicating.

This would explain his recent behavior.  He's OD'ing.


He is not eating much; he's mixing alcohol and the meds.

So what did I do?  I had sent an email to his Dad explaining a few things after I had sent the pics.  I decided to call Dad (lives in FLA) this afternoon.  I caught him in the middle of his dinner and offered to call back, but he said "No, what's up?"

I replied "Well, Tom....." he said "yeah I've been talking with him a couple of times."

I said "oh good, then he's told you he's doubling his pain meds...."

He started in with a "I don't want to go into this................."


This is the 2nd time he has questioned my efforts.  It willbe the last.  I do not EVER expect to talk with this jackass again EVER!

He cannot act rationally - with understanding and concern...he is more worried about his own embarassment of having failed as a father............his sister's children were "perfect", made a name for themselves.   But his children have been less than perfect.  That he cannot face.

So, sey la vie! 


Once home, I wrote Mr Man a note telling him I had counted his scripts and that it was obvious he was abusing....but not anymore.  I set them up for 2 pills per day and I've hidden the drugs.  He didn't take too kindly to that.

As a matter of fact, he balled up the note and tossed it away.  Then he got it back, smoothed it out and wrote "BullShit" on it.


I'm the bad guy...........again!  Of course.

I am really tired of this drama.



robinngabster said...

What did his doc say about taking too much meds?

cuteallison1980 said...

Sharon, is there any wonder why Mr. Man is the way he is . . . his dad sounds like he the same way.  You have been doing everything humanly possible, and I know you have been at wits end over it all.  I am more worried about you then Mr. Man because you are a caring individual that is forward looking whereas he doesn't care about the future.  He is going to eventually win out over you, not because his will is stronger, but because of not caring.  I'm here if you need a friend to chat with.  Luv ya!


emabecmar said...

mixing pain killers with booze is just not good. painkillers are very addicting, and if he keeps abusing him the only way to get off will be going into rehab. His father is a total ass. ((((((hugs))))))

eml625 said...

Your doing the right thing. Don't let him make you feel bad.

Be well

garnett109 said...

sorry to hear all that

chat2missie said...

I'm so sorry!

ukgal36 said...

Wow..maybe you could send his dad that pic of him passed out on the deck?? that's a damn shame for the kids to see him like that..
YOU are doing the right thing...he truly could kill himself on that diet of booze and pain meds...i have seen it happen..
hang in there...

deshelestraci said...

I really am sorry that you are going through this.  The ultra sad part is that you can't change him.  You can hide the pills but he will find a way to self medicate.

ktkamanski said...

This is a sad situation all the way around - Sorry you are having to feel the brunt of the pain. Hoping that each day brings new hope and clairity. Take care of you and yours,

katie39041 said...

I feel your pain when you write. You are standing alone with your husbands abuse. Until something nasty happens with Tom to give him a nasty shock he will remain the same. My x hubby drinks 3ltrs of white cider a night. He will not have it that he as a alcholic. Mixing pain meds and booze will affect your husband in ways that could end him up in the hospital ward. That will be a blessing to you no doubt, its one or the other, meds or booze. And driving is a big no no. I knew a bloke who has the same problem as Tom and he drove every family member away. Credit to you. You must love your husband very much to stay and see him going through this abuse. Hugs to you(((((()))))
Love and Hugs

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))SO sorry you have to go through his,wish there was more I can say.Praying for you.

mpnaz58 said...

I thought you only had one daughter??  Sounds like you have a grown up son too!!  Very immature...but an addicts behavior.  I feel for you!
xoxo ~Myra

queeniemart said...

i am banging my head against the table right now along with you. I do not know how you put up with it. I think i have a feeling where Tom gets his "ways" from...his dad!

randlprysock said...

I am so sorry to see you having to deal with him like this.  You deserve so much better.  I know you are trying to help him.  Will he let you?  Will he let himself be helped?  And will he help himself?  Sending Super Many Hugs,