Thursday, September 6, 2007

Give a Tom a cookie.....

                                    

and he'll just want a glass of milk......or Give A "Tom a Praise" and you'd be assured that there will be a slip.  You know the drill......."proud of ya for containing your drinking this weekend - yay you!"  and "it was nice to get out, alone together for a change" or "hold hands" or......

......then......

Wednesday I have Mom pick Miss T up from school (Tom's working) with the idea of taking her to the restaurant and him bringing her on in for dance.  BUT.....he's off early, just sitting there waiting for them to show up, so I suggested they all just meet at home so he can shower and T can get her homework done.

Mr Man tells Miss T that he "had a glass of wine" at the restaurant after work  (while waiting for her).  So she calls me to tell me this while he's in the shower.

He calls back.........I ask him and he admits YES....and says "you told me if I were honest I wouldn't get into trouble".......

                       

HELLO!   OK yes, I said "be honest with me" instead of denying it,

BUT

You still can't drink AND drive my child around.  I said "the rule is you will NOT drink and drive my child anywhere period!"  Therefore Miss T did not make it to her dance class. 

   WTF????

What makes this glass of wine (or any alk) a bigger problem is the heavy narcotics he's taking for the knee pain.  Combined could be very nasty.

Ya know, my mom reminded me that Ron White says it best......
"Ya can't fix stupid"

Come to find out he was going to pour himself a Tea glass full of wine once home until Miss T stopped him (roomie watched it).  He said he wasn't going to pour a drink.  HUH?  Why have an empty glass and reach for a bottle?  He doesn't get it.........we're not stupid.

He shut himself up in the bedroom....I called him the 8th Dwarf, Pouty --- maybe I should change that to Baby.  He didn't want to talk to me.  And NO he wasn't "drunk", I guess he was just irritated because he "can't do anything right". 

Trouble is......now Miss T is asking "did I do something wrong?" but roomie and I keep assuring her that it does not have anything to do with her or anything that she did or said.

He is upset.  He has told me before that he is having a hard time accepting that he is going to have to make changes in his lifestyle...that he is "scared" of the thought of quitting the drink. 

After watching his crazy NY friend this weekend, he actually said THANK YOU to me for helping him not be a drunk and strung out on drugs.  Sooooooooooooo...................

16 comments:

barebytes said...

You get a big smile today. A hug if you were close. Lanny

ktkamanski said...

Hopefully someday it will click. Your doing the right thing even though it is making you crazy - don't let up! Hope your day is one you are enjoying. Take care,
Katie

garnett109 said...

i know that quitting drink won't kill ya but it is a scarey tought,cause ican not function with all the idiots in this world!

chat2missie said...

Someday, he'll get it.  Hopefully sooner than later.
Missie

queeniemart said...

i wish he would own up to his problems and get into treatment and turn his life around so you can not worry all the time.....i am SO sorry you have to put up with this!
love,lisa

cacklinrosie101 said...

I agree he should not be driving Ms T around after having wine.  I also think that he seems to be trying and doing well.  At least over the weekend when his friend was here.  I know from stopping the nicotine it was a killer.  Eventually he will have to give up the alcohol completely because when I cut back on smoking, I always ended right back up to a pack a day.  But if he can contain himself until he finally makes the decision, that would be a good thing.  It's the containing that becomes a problem.  Wishing you luck and lots of calgon take me aways.  Love ya, Chris

lifes2odd said...

::Shaking head::

imgr8phil said...

This will continue to be a struggle for all of you.  I understand about the drinking and driving combined with drugs.  That would upset me as well.  I don't have any great advice to give you, but my thoughts and prayers are with you always.

Phil

cuteallison1980 said...

I really wish for your sake that he would get his act together and do the right thing for all of you.  I don't envy you the situation you are in every day.  You got my support. : )

Allison

emabecmar said...

having grown up with an alcoholic dad, and knowing what trouble it can cause I feel so bad for you and miss T. That is so sad she asks if she said or did something wrong. I will keep you all in prayers. (((((((hugs)))))))))
Cindy

jckfrstross said...

Its almost Friday:)

Deb

mpnaz58 said...

Fear...he is afraid to stop.  Dunno, hard for one who doesn't have that addiction to even fathom how he feels or what he's thinking.  I feel for ya'...and for Miss T...I hope he doesn't say anything to her!
xoxo ~Myra

eml625 said...

It's so hard for the family, especially kids to deal with this. Its normal for  Miss T to feel at fault here, but assure her as you did that she did nothing wrong. Poor thing.
big hugs,
Ellen

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))this is so hard for you,I am sorry,you have to deal with this.I hope you have a nice weekend.

deshelestraci said...

Bless your heart.  He is such a mess.  Poor Miss T.
Traci

mssingmysoldier said...

I am so sorry for what you are going through...it must be so hard.