Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day Y'all!!


I hope everyone out there has someone to love today, someone who will make them feel special.  Yes, if you were all near I'd give you great big hugs n kisses BUT

I won't share my chocolate!!!!  The only one's I would give up are the cream center ones - yuk!!

Bossman came in with his usual gift of Russell Stover's for me.  I gave him movie tickets - his birthday was last Saturday and it's V-day too.  He's a sweetie.

Hubby said he mailed something to the house, of course I'm not there to get it.  He called this morning wishing me a Happy Day.  I said of course that I appreciated that and would have also liked hugs and kisses, but I'd take the phone call.

Miss Roxy T has a sore throat AGAIN!

Not with competition starting tomorrow!!

Gotta get that baby well!

Speaking of hubby and his call.

We've talked as you know and he's working on the game plan.

His "proposal" is to come home on the 20th as scheduled with "bells on and a new attitude".

He wants to slow down and stop jumping into the conversation without hearing everything first; he wants to be a better listener - which he was actually attempting recently on the phone.

Also needs to stop feeling inadequate about his role in our life.  Tom claims that when I come home he feels like a school kid that has something to hide, even though he's innocent.

Wonder why that is?

He says he is always afraid he's done something wrong...or has failed to do something, maybe he forgot.

I will admit that if I've said it FOUR TIMES I would expect you to understand and commit it to memory. 

Write it on the calendar.

BUT..........not all things are majorly earth shattering.  And he has to stop acting as if forgetting them will cause WW 2008!  I mean he really gets himself all worked up over small things, actually to the point of slamming his hand on the dash and saying "f" or "dammit", getting that wrinkled forehead that says I'm pissed off....I have said to him recently "Stop it's done, there's nothing you can do about it now".  (So what he forgot to bring the laundry - it can be done tomorrow --- I don't do my light colors at home!)

So here's where I need all y'allz help.

What list should I propose to him?

I know the obvious items, drinking less; drinking and NOT driving; no drugs for crying out loud that's just STUPID!

Respect for ME; Miss er Roxy T and the family.

He has to stop treating us like we were the enemy.

We need to have more fun --- more family fun time. 

He has really enjoyed touring with his bro -- they went to an aircraft museum.  I pointed out to him that when I mention doing this he complains "my knee"....but why is it OK to go with bro and not us???  Hmmm.

I know he's depressed.....bored....but that's his own fault since he won't get up and do anything about it.  Maybe 10 days with bro will show him that just getting out of the house for a bit everyday will help the mindset.

I am wishing for a new and improved Tommy as you can tell.  He's too great of a guy normally to let himself get all caught up in the "wrong crowd" of life.  He has a heart of gold.........but the mindset of a 12 yr old at times.  The days of living carefree and wreckless were over many years ago for him....time to act his age.

Love you all on this day and always!!


queeniemart said...

i just wish for you to have security, love and happiness everyday and if he can come home and give that to you and Miss T, i am happy too. No one deserves it more than you. I hope Miss T gets better today!!

love you


garnett109 said...

Go Get em Tom We are pulling for ya buddy!

garnett109 said...

Go Get em Tom We are pulling for ya buddy!

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))I really pray that Tom comes back a better man.I hope you had a special Happy Valtines Day.

peytonswater said...

Happy Valentines Day!  Let me think on tom thing okay?
Hugs and Love

ndnhunny30 said...

I understand so well what you are going through! Are your hubby and mine long lost brothers? lmao Keep your chin up hun. Happy Valentine's Day!
Hugs, Robyn

xxroxymamaxx said...

Well the list should include's alllllll about choices!!  Happy happy Valentines day to you and Roxy T!!!!  What a cute kid!! lol  love ya, Shelly

cuteallison1980 said...

He needs to put others in front of him.  Do what's right.  Care about everyone and love everyone.  No more negativity from him.  That should be part of that proposal.  Hope you and Miss T had a good Valentine's Day.  : )  And give me some of those chocolates!!!  LOL


fasttrack58 said...

I so hope he is listening to his brother and will really try when he gets home....
You're trying too and giving him lots of chances.....
Happy Valentine's Day!!!
Linda :)

deshelestraci said...

You are far kinder and gentler than me.  I would want NO drinking.  Trips to AA.  But that's just me.  Hope the Roxy girl gets to having NO sore throat.

chat2missie said...

I hope Tom does everything right when he comes home!!

katerh99 said...

Sharon,  why don't you make a "night out" and start going to separate meetings at the same time? He to AA and you to Al-Anon? Call the local AA or one in a town near you. You can make eventual good, good friends, have a learning time, and each meeting is for each one of you ONLY!

springangel235 said...

A Belated Happy Valentine's Day...and wishing you the best when Tom comes home...also Hope Miss T and Roxy T feel many, including me are ill is just going around everywhere.  Don't you get it.  Enjoy that chocolate.  I enjoyed mine...hugs and love,

newsworthy822 said...

Happy Valentines (belated!) I would have to vote for NO drinking/drugs.  It's my opinion that a person with a problem cannot use just a little.   i think the drinking thing, even if it starts out "innocently" seems to lead to big and bad things with hubby.

Hope things are better when he gets home!!

eml625 said...

I think your list covers it all. There has to be no drinking. People with that problem can't just have one or two. Doesnt work.

ljjellybean71 said...

I hope that it all works out when Tom comes home.      Stand firm!

Take care

lifes2odd said...

Sure hope things will work out and hope you are having a happy valentine's weekend and spoiling yourself! Love and hugs to you and Roxy T, Martha :-)

rgossett4195 said...

ditto, I hope the time away helps.  rose