Tuesday, February 26, 2008

"D" ?? @*&%$

 

"D"............that's what came home on Miss T's interim report card for "not turning in spelling/writing work".

Say what?

 

This is the first year she's ever had anything less than a "B" on her report card.    "C" in Math and in Social Studies.

Needless to say she's in deep dooo dooo.

No computer/webkins time;

No TV;

No friends over etc.

Tom said I was being harsh if I didn't let her go to the birthday party this Saturday (of a dance friend)....after all, the friend is requesting her to attend. 

OK Fine she can go, but nothing else.

She called me today to say she knew she had done the work and she had found it in her notebook.....now can I watch TV?

NO!

Not until the teacher tells me you have improved.

Gotta stick to my guns on this one.

Miss T tried blaming it on "the situation at home".

Now, that is NOT normally the way she would talk.

Yes, maybe our conflicts have affected her, but she is rule oriented and would not have NOT done the work....just not turned it in, said it was because the teacher didn't "ask" for it.

I told her that you have to be responsible and turn it in yourself in case the teacher doesn't ask for it.....that way you're sure.

I think there is an underlying issue.  Because of her choice of words.  I think the words were "given" to her as what to say is wrong.

Anyone ever been manipulated?  Or felt like it was happening to you?

I have.  I just can't explain it in this journal.  Not yet.

20 comments:

garnett109 said...

if you were my mom you'd have ulcers d's & c's were the norm

momiscool2 said...

I'm having a similar issue with my son Danny - and his grades. And school officials are in my top 5 fav list today.
And yes, I get what you're saying. Something smells rotten.
URHGGH.
hugs,
Michelle

momiscool2 said...

I meant to say the are NOT in my favorite top 5 list today lol.  I had a school meeting today that really ticked me off - I haven't written about it yet because I'm too steamed

Hang in there!
Michelle

chat2missie said...

Doesn't Miss T suffer from anxiety??  Don't be to harsh on her.  I've learned from Nicci, it just made the grades worse.  She felt she always had to be perfect.   I understand a "D" is not a good grade, but she's a good kid.  Maybe she's having some anxiety that you don't know about.  Hope you have a good night!
Missie

peytonswater said...

I firmly beleive that girls are a different speices then boys. So I don't know really.  I think if she is typically a "B" student then something else is going on. Any problems with school friends?? What about that teacher?? I think you should call and set up a conference with her or speak to her on the phone and explain this isn't normal. Sometimes the teachers have a different insight since they see them in school, around peers and it's a different setting.
Good Luck
Ang

hugsdoodlewacky said...

((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))I hope Her grades improve.

imgr8phil said...

You know, sometimes when turmoil is around children feel it and stuff like this can happen.  No matter what is going between you and Tom do your best to not allow her to see it.  Take care and have a happy hump/no panty day.

Phil

mpnaz58 said...

You really need to get to the bottom of this...maybe schedule some one on one time with her.  And you're probably right on about her choice of words...someone is egging her on.  Maybe it's stress or anxiety.  Take care...
xoxo ~Myra

eml625 said...

Oh damn.
You need to go private, btw.
I hope her grades improve. Poor kid.

hugs,
E.

rgossett4195 said...

stick to your guns, you'll be glad you did!  rose

cuteallison1980 said...

Try not to be too stern on her.  Remember, things are difficult for you and Tom and it is bound to rub off on her as well.  She needs you to be her rock, her support, and to show her all the love you can.  Remember when you were a little girl and how things may have great or could have been better.  I don't have a child yet, but I just know that she is having problems with what may be going on in your lives.  Hope you have a happy tomorrow. : )

Allison

ukgal36 said...

wow
Lyn

xxroxymamaxx said...

Oh yeah, my middle daughter Cindi tried to manipulate us with homework in the 8th grade but it didn't work.  She got busted.  lol  She had horrible grades in that school but now in high school she is getting principals honor roll.  so yeah, you still have hope. lol  Love ya, Shelly

ktkamanski said...

I have a 6 year old who tries his hardest to blame everyone else for his wrong doings. Wishing you the best,
Katie

deshelestraci said...

Oooooh is he using her to blame you for why her grades aren't what they should be?!  No he isn't....
Traci

jckfrstross said...

all kids go through this, some never out grow this stage but miss T will learn from her mistake. i hope that nothing else is going on

Deb

queeniemart said...

hmm..the teens are coming ,right? Kids are a puzzle that is hard to figure out sometimes. I dont think you are being too strict. Kids need structure.
LOVE YOU

lisa

springangel235 said...

I hope those grades start going back up and you are right to correct the issues.  All will work out.  Have a lovely weekend...hugs and love,
Joyce

luddie343 said...

Rasied 2 typical young ones, still remember the first time I realized my son was manipulative.  Yet it's natural I think, at certain ages.  Sharon I applaud your stance and hope you keep to it, so she'll understand there are boundaries and respect them.  Helps in later life.  I give her points on creativity tho lol!! CATHY
http://journals.aol.com/luddie343/DARETOTHINK/    

cacklinrosie101 said...

Manipulated, moi?  But, of course.  LOL..didn't you know that children are some of the best at perpetrating manipulations around?  Actually, my son was not as bad as the girls.  Hmmm....makes ya wonder how a girl thinks she can pull the same stuff on mom.  Guess they never think we were ever young.  HUGS Chris