Saturday, February 2, 2008

Not so comfy on my coast

My world is not so happy right now.

Where hubby is concerned it rarely is anymore.

Last night about 7 he drove me and Miss T to the dance studio so we could work on costumes.

Yes, I could have drove myself, but he had been antsy all week and I figured I'd give him a small project.....take the girls to town; I'll call you and you can pick us up in a couple of hours.

Around 11:30 I called him...........he was "changing a flat tire" in an area he was NOT supposed to be ....... and drunk.

I asked why, he didn't know; I said "see if you had stuck to the plan of going over to Katy's Restaurant, then picking me up like planned this would not have happened".

He said I KNOW.

By 1 am he had not called nor shown up.

I figured my lil bro would be downtown bar hopping so I called him.  Sure enough he was and said I could come get his car.  My dance mom friend who was with us drove me and Miss T down, got bro and took off to get his car.

Tom showed up at home at 5am.

He had lost his phone last night.  He never admitted the whole truth.

Then at 10am HIS phone called MY phone....hmmmmm.

A lady saying that her hubby was riding his bike this morning and found it in da hood.  I said THANK YOU and that I would come get it. 

So I turned towards my bedroom and say "How about that Tom?  Your phone called and said it was lost, but found ---- wanna guess where it was calling from?"

That's when he admitted the truth.

That's when I said it's time to pack.

A one-way plane ticket to Houston is $194 on Wednesday.  I think he should "get away" as Southwest says.

I picked up the phone at 12:30.  The lady was very nice - her hubby a Dr.

I've had a long 3 days.....little sleep.....working on costumes.  Dealing with him.  Today was dress rehearsal.  I was late...I'm never late for dress rehearsal or competitions.  Needless to say it's been a long day.

 

24 comments:

fasttrack58 said...

Gentle hugs...
Linda...

imgr8phil said...

I am not going to offer advice.  Just listening to your story.  Take care and hope Superbowl Sunday will go OK.

Phil

hugsdoodlewacky said...

(((((((((((((((HUGSTOYOU)))))))))))))))))I am praying things willbe ok.

garnett109 said...

sorry my friend hope it all works out

ukgal36 said...

wow..i am sorry...
Lyn
http://journals.aol.com/ukgal36/Britsblog/

mpnaz58 said...

I'm sorry Sharon.  Take care...
xoxo ~Myra

xxroxymamaxx said...

I'm sorry.  I wish I could come there and help you through ...or carry you out one.  Love ya, Shelly

ktkamanski said...

I wish there were words to change the way you feel. I am sorry to hear of your unhappiness. Hoping a Southwest flight for him will bring you some relief. Take care of you,
Katie

sunnybethe said...

Oh Noooo!  The worst, another "lady".  I am so very sorry, thank goodness you now know.  Hunny, if I could wrap my arms around you and dry your tears, I would.

big hugs, Bethe

lifes2odd said...

I'm so sorry Sharon. I know you knew this was coming. I look forward to you being able to move ahead with a normal life. It's got to be hell living like you've been living. I'm a phone call or email away if you need me. I wish there was more I could say or do. Hugs, Martha

luddie343 said...

Well Sharon, I don't know how long you've endured his ways - what's more important is that you're cleaning house.  You deserve someone you can be proud of.  With such a full life, Tom may be jealous, and seems intent on pulling you down by acting anyway he pleases.  Things don't work that way.  Kudos for being strong and sure.  You have my support!  CATHY
http://journals.aol.com/luddie343/DARETOTHINK/  

robinngabster said...

What was he doing in the hood?  Wishing the best for you...hang in there.

deshelestraci said...

Bless you, Sharon.  You have put up with a bunch from him.  As REO Speedwagon said, "time for him to fly".
Traci

rgossett4195 said...

Tom will only change when he wants to .  Not only is he lying to you he first has to lie to himself.  You have a child and yourself to take care off.  It seems you have had enough and already know what to do.  We are here, count on it.  My best, rose

peytonswater said...

Girl, I don't know how you deal with this. that would have been the icing on my cake. Oh man.
Hugs babe, love ya
Ang

springangel235 said...

I think of you often and hope and pray things get better....many hugs and love,
Joyce

queeniemart said...

I LOVE YOU.  I wish i was with you. I would hold you and we both could have a big cry. There really are no words.....but i love you.

lj

chat2missie said...

I'm so sorry!  Wish there was something I could say to or do to make Tom change his life around.  Sending you and Miss T big hugs.
Missie

cuteallison1980 said...

Just stay strong Sharon.  Eventually you will be able to get to a point in your life that things will come together and happiness will be in your heart always.  Hold on to that cute Miss T and have a happy week. : )

Allison

eml625 said...

I'm so sorry to read this. But it was bound to happen given his track record.
Stay strong, you know what you have to do. I'm here if you need.

(((((((( HUGS ))))))))))))
Ellen

jckfrstross said...

i am so sorry:(

Deb

jillannemarie said...

Oh hun, I'm so sorry to hear this.  I know this, I've been there.  Wishing you and Miss T all the best and the strength you will need to deal with everything.  
I wish I could do something to help you.

One way ticket to Houston...$194
Peace of mind...PRICELESS!

I'll be thinking of ya'll.  Hugs!

queenb8261 said...

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. What my mother went through her entire life until she nearly died one night (she had emphysema) and Dad was too drunk to help her. He never took another drink again till the day he died. She lived for 2 more years caring for her with the love & with the guilt he had to carry, for the rest of his life. Sending you all the care and prayers I have.
Hugs, Barb  

randlprysock said...

Wow you are going through a lot still with Tom as I suspected knowing from my own sister and her issues.  Only God can change them.  I am trying to figure out how to be a good sister to my own sister and her similar situation.  These are tough things to deal with and I can only imagine what you are going through.  Now you know why we didn't get our log cabin.  I couldn't stay with my sister and put my kids through a Tom situation either.  And it's more complicated when you are married.  You are a good wife going through all this Sharon.  If you decide to break it off no one will ever be able to say you didn't try with all your heart.  God Bless You!!!
Lisa