I am the bad guy.....
Yeah it's true.....I'm the one who gets upset when I come home and find Tom inebriated, music so loud the words can be heard in the driveway.
I "ruin" his evenings by "fussing" because he won't tell me the truth about his consumption.
I am the nag. I won't let him enjoy himself in his own home. He should be able to play his CD's as loud as he wants too, drink as much as he can, borrow money from my Grandmother (for cigs & alcohol), and rant and rave because I don't let him have access to his own money.
It is my fault that he overdraws the checking account. Another error is that I become irrational in my quest for peace in my home. I ask for unreasonable measures; how dare I ask for the volume to be lowered on the TV so that my daughter can get a good night's sleep.
Also among my many faults is a mortgage, vehicle payments, phone bills, electric bills (not once did he mention the Direct TV!) and insurance not to mention food and water and gas. Plus I am jealous because he gets to stay at home and rake in retirement money while I have to go to a job.
And I've bailed him out of a destructive lifestyle and he wouldn't be alive today if not for me. Plus I make him take us to visit his family at Christmas and also other mini vacations during the year when able.
Oh yeah, don't forget that I drive the truck on the weekends and now he's low on gas...shame on me. But I must be forgiven for that one since I just ran down to the station and filled it up for him.
Hmmm, what have I left out?
Oh yeah, I am ungrateful for the many things that he does....rarely do I say "good job" or "thanks" or "don't worry, go ahead and yell and scare Miss T". It is also bad for me to expect that he do the things he says he will do and be in the places he says.
Another fault I have is picking up his medicine and making sure he remembers his Dr appointments or birthdays of family members. Most of the time I don't even know what I'm talking about much less "have a clue".
What kind of self respecting wife does such awful stuff???
I must be nuts!